Cranky on Mother’s Day

I've thought about this for the last few years (it usually hits me at the end of the day on Mother’s Day)... 

On past Mother's Days, I have ended up being cranky about having to do things for my family that I would usually do without any thought or complaint.  Mother's Day is wonderful - don't get me wrong - I like to be appreciated, and I think our families do and should show us appreciation on that day especially.  But, I also think we moms set ourselves up for disappointment because we want to take the day off and do away with our responsibilities, and maybe have come to expect Mother's Day to be a relaxing, no-cares, kind of day.  Due to the nature of motherhood, we can’t take 100% of the day off.  In fact, it always seems that on Mother's Day we moms find ourselves in situations where extra mothering is needed.  Let’s face it, when Mom is home and not doing her regular, everyday things, the kids’ day gets a bit disoriented, and they get upset and might quarrel a more than usual.  

Now that my kids are getting older, and as Nathan gets closer to moving-out age, I have started to realize that, on Mother's Day, instead of getting upset that I didn't get the day off, I want to appreciate that I get to be a mother and do all of these little things for my family, like combing hair, finding socks, ironing clothes, hurrying people out the door.

As Mother’s Day began on Sunday, I wasn’t thinking about this.  My family had made me cards and given them to me the day before.  Nathan decided he and Dad were going to make hash browns for everyone in the morning, as a gift to me.  After breakfast, as we were getting ready for church, I started to have to do more of the work, and I began to get a little resentful.  Not much, but a little.  This probably would have continued to build throughout the day, as I fixed lunch for everyone, etc. if it weren’t for a lovely reminder that I received at church.

I was out in the hall with Joshua when I saw a mom and her child.  The child was looking like she had been misbehaving a bit and that wonderful mom looked like she had been pushed to her limits already.  I imagined that this was not what she had had in mind for her special day.  When she was supposed to be appreciated for all efforts and love, she was being asked to problem solve and discipline. She looked harried - worn out.  But what I also saw was the beauty of motherhood!  Here was a mom, mothering her child.  And I thought to myself, “Isn’t this moment exactly what Mother’s Day is all about?”  This little child needed her mommy.  And I smiled.  

Whether in good times or bad times, we get to mother our children.  What a blessing!  When they have been rotten and we would like to have it easy, it’s still a blessing.  Instead of trying to push mothering away from us on Mother’s Day, we can embrace it and appreciate it.  We can find joy in the things that we have to do each day.  And we can say to ourselves, “I get to _______ for my children today, what a perfect thing to do on a day like today.”

After church, I came home and kids started asking, “What can I have for lunch?”,  “Is there anything else I can have?”,  “Will you make it for me?”, and I started to feel that grumpy feeling emerge.  My first thought was, “Hey, your supposed to be making lunch for me.  Or at least not asking me to make your lunch.”  Then my mind went back to earlier, and that scene  with the mom and her child.  And I had this great swell of love and appreciation for what Mother’s all over the world do everyday.  I appreciate that you take care of and love your children.  That you teach them and help them grow up to be kind, responsible adults.  Mom’s are awesome!  You are awesome!

Fire Station Visit #2: We rode in the truck!

"One, two fire truck... three, four fire truck... one, two, three, four fire truck.  Jump on board and away we go - in a fire truck.  Put up the ladder and drag out the hose - in a fire truck. " (from "Hard Hat Harry: Fire Trucks" video)

That has become our theme song around here, and that's just what we did on Wednesday - almost.  Our neighborhood station doesn't have a ladder truck, so Joshua didn't put up the ladder, but he did everything else.

We hadn't been to the Fire Station since December, so we went back.  And we had so much fun!

Firefighter Reggie said to get in the truck, but he didn't say we were going for a ride - with the Sirens on too! 

We only went around the station so the ride was no more than 30 seconds long, but we will remember it forever!

Joshua was both thrilled and scared about riding in the truck. Reggie said to get in and buckle up. He didn't tell us that he was going to give us a ride. This was J's face when the engine started, and he realized this was going to be more than just sitting in the truck.

Joshua got to do real firefighter work.

Drag out the hose.

This was a dream come true.

Joshua getting instructions about what to do next.

Getting ready to put out a "fire."

Putting out the fire.

Working the hose like a pro!

Reggie and Joshua pose for the camera.  Reggie was a great host.  He really let Joshua do quite a few jobs.

Since we used up some of the trucks water supply, it needed to be refilled.

Hooking up the main line.

The truck is getting filled up.

Putting the station's main hose back out to drain and dry.  It was a great day for Joshua.  It was very satisfying to him to be able to go to work.  His next wish is to come to the station to help them wash their trucks.  Stay tuned for that one!  I'll have to see if I can make that one work.

Joshua Can Read! (a few words)

Two weeks or so ago, Joshua began saying words and then letting me know what the beginning or ending sound was.  After he does that, he would try to guess which letter was making that sound.  So I have started teaching him the sounds of letters whenever he asks about it, or occasionally when something he has asked about comes up again.  Last week, I told him he could learn how to read because he was able to guess what so many letters were by the sounds.  He got super excited, so I found a book and a CD-rom that taught how to read.  We did a sample of the cd-rom lesson on a website.  The reviews were good and he liked the sample lesson so we bought the book and cd-rom.  Anyway...  it came in the mail yesterday, so today we did the first lesson on the computer.  The lesson focussed on the letters "a, t, s, c, o" and their accompanying sounds. Then it showed how to combine them together to make the words.  After each lesson, there are activities.  One of them was word recognition.  They show the words he has learned and he has to pick the correct word that the voice asks for.  He did that activity twice and on the second time around he got every one correct.  Now he can sight read "at, cat, sat".  And he almost has "cot" down.  The lesson also shows the word on the screen and asks them to type it.  He needs a little bit of help with that still, but I'm amazed at how fast that's coming along.  He only did it once and he's almost got it.

I'm just so surprised and impressed!  I guess he really wants to read!  I can't wait to see if his retention is good.  Tomorrow will be a good test to see if the info he learned sticks with him.  

P.S.  As I write this he is looking at the word LOVE and asking me, "Which letter makes the sound _____?"  Then he says the sound of a letter in that word and wants me to guess.

Eve Knits a Snake

Two things Eve loves are knitting/crocheting and photography.  

Every Sunday, Eve takes her yarn to church and crochets or knits as she listens, sometimes she finger knits things.  On Sunday, she finger knitted this tube and decided that it looked like a snake, so she tied it off and left some yarn for the tongue and split the end to look like a snake.  She had fun playing with it.  When I told her we should take a picture of it and post it on the blog she got her camera out and took this picture of herself.  I think she is so creative with it!

I love this picture ^ up here^

Joshua Climbs A Tree

Here he is - so proud of himself.  Yesterday, he asked me how people climb trees.  So I told him, then he asked if I would help him climb a tree.  I said I would in a little while.  Well, about 1/2 hour later he went outside and just did it all by himself.

You can see that there is a bike resting up against the tree.  Well, climbed on that and stood on the seat to get himself into the tree.

He didn't want me to take him down, so I let him sit there for a while.  All day he would go back and I would hear him call me to come take a look at his accomplishment.  Then when I would try to take him down, he would say that he wanted to stay there for a while.  I think it's so cute!

Malinda's Big Read

Malinda likes to read, but it hasn't been high up on her list of extra-curricular activities.  She has read books and enjoyed them, but picked only very short book.  She didn't really get the hunger for reading, until Twilight.  So many kids she knows have read Twilight (including everyone in our family except Malinda & Joshua.  Eve has only been allowed to read the first three books).   But we thought the subject matter was too grown up for her until recently.  

Now that she is nearing 10 yrs. old, we decided that the first book is an appropriate enough book for her to read.  She was so happy she just read and read and read.  Well, she finished!  It's a very long book, and she is so proud of herself!  I know it will motivate her to read more in the future.  She wants to read more Twilight, but that isn't going to happen until she's a bit older.  So if any of you have some book suggestions, we're taking them.